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What do you really want in life? Think about it. Yes, you yeah, YOU can have all this! You are free to achieve any goal! You can do anything! Dont believe it? Thats OK! Just try it out! The DARAFAL-Formula works. And it also works for YOU!

Imagine for one moment living the life of your dreams! Hmm, isnt it beautiful? And the best is you can do it! YOU! And you dont have to wait! You can start right now!

Here is your key to success.

1. D Decide what you want

This first step is vitally important. Why? Because you must identify what you WANT. We are so used to identify what we dont want that it may be unusual to decide what we want. But, what happens if we only say what we dont want?

Well, our mind is a goal seeking mechanism. The subconscious mind does all to create what we want. Only, it can not distinguish between what we want and what we dont want. If you say I dont want to be poor, the only thing your mind focuses on is the it-part, that means, your subconscious mind focuses on be poor and it says to itself, OK, no problem, we can do that for you. And then you will be involved in actions making you poor. Thats why it is so important to focus on what you want. If you say I am rich then your mind focuses on rich and again your subconscious mind says OK, no problem, we can do rich for you and you will be inspired to take actions that will make you rich.

So, this first step is really important! Rather than to decide what you dont want, decide consciously what you do want.

2. A Accept that this is possible for you

Once you decided what you want to create in your life there may come thoughts like You never gonna do that or Thats impossible for you. You are not one of those successful persons or Stop dreaming! Come back to reality! This is nothing for you! and so on and so on and so on. These thoughts are absolutely normal. Accept them as a natural defence mechanism. But why defence mechanism? The change is only for the best, so why do not allow this? What you are going to change is in fact a pattern of behaviour and a part of your mind is responsible to keep this pattern working in order to protect you. Only, that this pattern protected you from growing and kept you right there where you are now. This is because this pattern was useful maybe a long time ago to protect you from your environment or from other threats. But, these threats are no longer there and therefore these patterns are no longer useful. Because your mind tries to protect you, this part, responsible for this pattern, does all that those changes will not happen. When the changes happen, the pattern will be replaced by a new one and the guardian part of your mind that has protected this old pattern thinks that this is a threat and tries all to stop this evolution.

This is called self-sabotage and represents the hardest part of the changing process. It is here where a lot of people stop changing because they believe these old pattern are right. KEEP IT GOING! Be aware of the fact that you can make those changes and that YOU DESERVE THEM! You deserve your new and much better life, so dont stop now and continue your new way!

3. R Relieve all past limitations

Maybe you are aware of the thoughts and feelings that keep you away from changing. If you identified them, you can say to yourself, loud and clear: I release and then you fill in the thoughts and feelings that keep you back from changing. This is a very powerful technique and you will be surprised by its effectiveness. If you dont know exactly what thoughts and feelings keep you back from moving forward, then I suggest that on a regular basis you relax and when you are really relaxed you speak to all aspects of your mind and you tell them to relieve all past limitations. Trust yourself; it works when you do it on a regular basis.

4. A Affirm your goals

The key to success is the combination of affirmation, visualization and feelings. It is a proven fact that you attract what you believe. If you would like to know what your real beliefs are then look at your life and look at your body. Both reflect 100% your inner attitude. That means that your life reflects your thoughts and feelings. Ergo, if you change your thoughts and feelings, your way to see things then you can create consciously exactly the life you would like to have. Sounds too simple? Sorry, but it is like this! The secret to success and happiness is nothing more.

One very important detail! It may sound strange and this is OK! You are not the victim of others! That sounds strange for the first time. You will say maybe: Of course I am! He did this to me and because of her action I suffer now and because this and because that, I am now suffering and feeling bad! April fool! This is one of the hardest pill to swallow. You crated that. Certainly not on purpose. No one creates his problems on purpose. You did it unconsciously because all of the inner values you accepted during your life. But, are those values really yours? Or did you accept them blind from an authority. The values of your parents, your teachers, dont have to be necessarily your own values. Maybe you live a life following others ideas. But if those ideas are not yours then they are empty and powerless. Only if an idea becomes a vision then it is powerful enough to change your life!

Therefore it is so important to act rather than to react. If you give others the possibility to influence your feelings then you give them power over your life. You alone have the right to decide which feeling you allow in your life and which not.

I know, this is really a hard thing to accept. But if you want to change your life for the best, you must work on this.

But I am going to sweeten the pill for you. If you work with your affirmations, visualizations and feelings on a regular basis, you will see changes in your life very quickly! That gives you the power to continue your journey!

To create powerful affirmations you need to know what you want. If you want to be more self-confident a possible affirmation would be i.e. I choose to make it easy for me to be self-confident. If you want to be thin then a possible affirmation would be i.e. I choose to achieve quickly and easily my perfect weight (by the way, it would be better not to say that you want to loose weight because our mind is triggered to find what we lost. Imagine you lost your car keys. What do you want to do? You want to find them, to get them back. Our mind is trained trying to find what we lost. So, if you say that you want to loose weight, once you lost it your mind does all that it can to get the lost weight back to you).

5. F Feel your intention already achieved

The same time you say your affirmation, visualize it! See yourself in a situation where you are self-confident or see yourself in the perfect body you want to have. But, see yourself always in the first person perspective, that means, dont see yourself entirely like another one would see you, dont see you moving around like in a movie. You are not the spectator, you are the actor! See what you would see from your own eyes. Feel how good it feels! Feel the feelings you want to have. Feel how good it feels to be self-confident. Feel how good it feels to have the perfect body!

Combine all these 3 sensations (affirmations, visualizations and feelings) and do this on a regular basis. Repetition, repetition and repetition! This is one of the keys to success! Do it every day in the morning after you awakened and in the evening before you fall asleep. Repetition is the way to mastery

6. A Action!

Now it is time to take action. That does not mean to do something only for doing it. No, I mean, take inspired action. Your subconscious mind leads you to the right opportunity. Once you feel an inner urge to do something then act at once. Even if you do not understand why, just do it. Follow your intention. You need to take action to achieve your goals, only your subconscious mind will show you the right ones to take! Trust yourself! If you feel that you have to see a special web site just do it, if you feel you should have a look at a special book just do it. Your subconscious mind will bring you in touch with the very best opportunity for you.

7. L Let it go

Now it is time to release your intention. Give it to the universe and let your subconscious mind attract the very best for you. This is a very important step. If you think all the time about your intention it cant develop itself. Let it go means let it grow. Trust your subconscious mind and dont stay attached to your intention. When you hold it, it just cant develop. So, let it go and trust you!

Everyone is different, has a different history, different values and different goals. Therefore, one may achieve his goals faster than another, but, anyone can achieve his goals with the right mindset. There is no doubt about it! That means you can do it, too!

To make it even easier to overcome self-sabotage and to influence your subconscious mind, I put together valuable tools on my web site www.101realsuccess.com . Each one of them has the ability to help you change your life! Only, because one is different from another, one tool may work better for person A and another tool will be better for person B. Just check them out, read them and if you feel that a tool could be perfect for you cool! If not, stay motivated. You will find your right tool just at the right moment in time!

(c) 2005 Phil Brll

Phil Brull lives in Belgium and works in the field of personal development and spiritual growth. Phil strongly believes that anyone has the internal power to achieve every single dream and dedicated his life to help others doing this, too. He is involved in the ancient Polynesian wisdom known as Huna as well as in many powerful life changing techniques.

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Im going to give you a trivial example to illustrate something huge.

Apply this tip and youll step into a transformation.

Im promising you this because it happened to me.

For years now, Ive had, as my desktop, a picture of a white colonial mansion set in a verdant green garden.

This symbolized prosperity for me. Tradition, security, and spacious and gracious living.

One day, however, I got impatient with it, sifted through what other images I had on my hard-drive and discovered a breathtaking island scenesparkling waters, a painted swatch of cerulean blue sprinkled with sapphire, a golden, sun-drenched island with languid palm trees rustling in the wind, and a massive white sailing ship cutting through the water, heading straight for the island.

Now whenever I sit in front of my computer, I feel the pull of my dreams even strongera life of beauty and elegance, achievement, contribution, and even joy.

This is the trivial example...but, there is a powerful metaphor behind it.

You are the pictures in your mind.

Let that sink in for a moment.

Everything that you see, feel, experience, and acknowledge around you is due to a singular fact: it is an out-picturing of your inner vision.

If youre surrounded by beauty, truth, and goodness, magnanimous friends, a loyal and devoted family, a business that lays golden eggs every morning so that you can enjoy the best breakfast possiblethen my advice to you is to stop tuning in...you have much better things to do with your time.

If, however, everything is distressingly short of your ideal, then you may want to listen in.

Your thoughts, moment by moment, create your reality. They force you to make this choice over that one. You see only through the filter of your mental pictures. Opportunity or the lack of it only appears before you based on how your internal map of reality is set. You navigate your whole life based on your conditioned experiences.

Now if its not what you wantyou need to change the picture, redraw the map, reconfigure your internal boundaries, and polish up the tarnished silver of your dreams

Instead of focusing on what is before you, you have to focus in on what resonates with your heart. Its the belief in the evidence of things not seen that will shift your reality.

Seeking counsel is a fine thing, doing the best you can is a noble one, but the sage that you seek and the path that is your own can only be found within.

If you dont make this move, youll continue living out your life unconsciously, accepting what is and going with it. While this is the fate of the bulk of humanity, the depression inherited by centuries of helplessness, is it really the best way for you?

You have a vast internal power, my friend.

Imagine what would happen if you used it?

You turn on the power by changing the pictures in your head. You have to run a different internal movie.

Little by little, things will change for you. Instead of living as a drone, part of the conditioned masses, youll become a visionary. Instead of accepting limitation, youll start embracing possibility. And instead of being like everyone else, youll become the person that you really believe yourself to be inside, the one who wakes up in the morning with a smile and a heart overflowing with joy.

Your stodgy white colonial mansion may make you feel safe, but youll be missing out on the thrill of riding an 18 meter Catamaran straight to the island of your dreams, where the sun is always warm and inviting, the sand beneath your feet is soft and yielding, and the song of the ocean is a lullaby that caresses every cell of your body with an echoing peace.

Saleem Rana would love to share his inspiring ideas with you. Hunting everywhere for a life worth living? Discover the life of your dreams. His book Never Ever Give Up tells you how. It is offered at no cost as a way to help YOU succeed. http://www.theempoweredsoul.com/enter.html Copyright 2004 Saleem Rana. Please feel free to pass this article on to your friends, or use it in your ezine or newsletter. It's a shareware article.

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So, the thing is we reap what we sow.

A few weeks ago, my daughters and I planted some seeds. It was a fun project to do together because it involved digging in the dirt and talking about how plants grow, plus the sun was warm on our faces. It was a perfect day. I wouldnt have been very surprised if the seeds hadnt sprouted at all, since projects like this one make Jane very enthusiastic, and youd think seeds are more fragile than her handling would indicate. Not to mention that Id had those packets of seeds in my desk drawer for almost two years-- thats probably not good for seeds either. But when we were finished, we had forty-eight little containers of potting soil and hope, and a very nice memory of a warm day.

Of course, I spent the next three weeks muttering under my breath as I carried all those darn containers in and out of the house since we arent past the freezing weather. But then, about a week ago, we noticed that our little seeds had sprouted the tiniest and most fragile plants. It seemed miraculous to the kids, and frankly, to me, too. Its oddly comforting to think that if we plant seeds in good soil and we protect them from the cold and we make sure they have lots of sunlight, most of them will sprout. In the midst of all the uncertainty in the world, its a nice reminder of growth and renewal.

So then, still taking advantage of some lovely weather, the girls and I went to feed the ducks at the large public park near our house. Afterward, we decided to walk across these big soccer fields to see an arrangement of large stones that sometimes serves as an amphitheater.

Well, Ana took off running. I let her go for a bit because I know how good it feels to run full-out across a big space. Jane couldn't keep up, though, and in no time Ana was too far ahead of us and would not listen to my calls. Soon she was climbing up those big rocks. There was a man with a big dog running loose and the dog pinned Ana in a crevice he didnt bite her but it could have been terrible and I wouldn't have gotten to her in time. Ive never felt so helpless. The man passed me and asked with this what kind of a mother ARE you tone, "Is that your little girl up on those rocks?" (I was too frantic to bring up the leash law right then.)

Anyway, I couldn't get Ana to come down from the rocks and then Jane started to climb and when I picked her up to bring her down, she kicked me so hard that I shook her --not repeatedly, but one shake. And then I started to cry because I couldnt believe that I was so far gone that I touched my child in anger. I am still deeply ashamed of myself. Because, of course, I wasnt really even angry with JANE.

It was a horrible end to what could have been a wonderful day. I kept thinking of all the terrible things that might have happened to Ana. She could have fallen off those rocks. That man could have been some child molester. That dog could have attacked her.

When I calmed down and got the kids back into the car and everyone stopped crying, I started to wonder if my reaction was too extreme. Am I am too paranoid about my childrens safety? IS the world a more dangerous place than when I was growing up? Because I can remember taking off on my bike (blue with banana seat and a big flag) and just staying gone all day. I wasnt that much older than Ana is now. I came home for meals and band-aids, but I played all over our neighborhood, as did all the other kids, and no one ever gave it a second thought. I would have run over to those rocks to explore them, too.

The media seems inordinately focused on the bad things that happen to kids and the weirdoes out there who victimize them. I think we parents respond by trying to avoid every risk-- every situation-- that might be the least dangerous. I rarely let my children out of my sight unless they are safely within the confines of our house or at school. I feel like I say, Be careful! about six hundred times a day. Ive heard myself preemptively tell my children, Dont run with scissors when they had no intention of doing so anyway.

I have to wonder what this is doing to my kids. We talk to them so young now about stranger danger and Good Touch, Bad Touch. Then we explain things like war and terrorism and racism. We pad them in car seats and bike helmets against accidents and they hold our hands across streets and in parking lots. Weve taught them that they are safe holding our hands but what about when were not there? Will our children grow up afraid of their shadows?

I believe that children build confidence by meeting challenges and overcoming them, and sometimes that means that they fall off of the monkey bars. But what is the net effect if we never let them climb because of the fear of falling? Are we creating a world full of fear for them? I came across an article by Ernest E. Allen, president and CEO of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children called Keeping Children Safe: Rhetoric vs. Reality. (http://ojjdp.ncjrs.org/jjjournal/jjjournal598/safe.html) It is a horrifyingly factual article about child abductions and molestations. Just as I was making up my mind to build some large terrarium to keep my children in for the rest of their lives, I read this: America's families need not live in fear, but parents need to be fully informed about the dangers their children face and the most effective ways to educate them and guard them from harm. The key to child safety is communication.

The thing is I dont want my children to feel like victims but even more than that, I dont want them to ever BE victims. Its just so hard to prepare them for how to deal with bad people without creating a fear of EVERYONE. I dont know how much caution is enough and how much is too much but I am talking to my kids about potential dangers AND potential good. Im working on not creating an atmosphere of fear. Because, you know, the world is actually more good than bad. People are mostly good.

Sometimes, maybe we have to trust that even though we cant protect them every single second, our kids are going to be okay. Maybe our children are hardier than we think, just like those little seeds. If we give them a positive and warm environment and we watch for the big dangers (like freezing weather and pedophiles), we just have to go on faith that theyll flourish. Even if it means letting them take some risks.

Because if we keep them in the desk drawer, theyll never get a chance to blossom.

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(c) Barbara Cooper 2003

About The Author

Barbara Cooper is the mother of Ana (almost five) and Hurricane Jane (28 months) and this weekly column, called "So, the thing is...". She lives in Austin, Texas and shes going to have a LOT of basil this year.

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